There is no honest and spontaneous relationship. Even though you have been together for a long time, you feel cramping, fear and discomfort. He does not respect agreements with you, cancels them easily and does not respect your time.
Signals that your relationship with your partner is not good:
There is no honest and spontaneous relationship. Even though you have been together for a long time, you feel cramping, fear and discomfort.
It's not exactly specified what your relationship is - whether it's a relationship or just a "friendship with privileges" etc.
He does not respect agreements with you, cancels them easily and does not respect your time.
He doesn't try and take initiative, it feels like you're the only one pulling the strings and then he says you're asking too much.
He thinks that one "I'm sorry" is enough, without making an effort to actually apologize. He condemns you for being pushy at every objection you make.
There are no joint plans with you, everything is spontaneous, and in fact you are his option for when his other plans fail.
It doesn't remember things in your relationship (birthdays, anniversaries), nor does it remember conversations and your favorite things.
While you are together he talks on the phone more than he talks to you.
He blackmails you for everything, transfers it to you and punishes you with indifference.
Conversation about the problems does not exist, immediately creates chaos to avoid the conversation.
When he has problems and needs a favor, he becomes the most caring person in the world.
You irritate him no matter what you do, he just complains, gets angry and plays the victim.
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